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Now that YOUR kid is in your youth ministry…

18 May

I have seen over the past few days, youth leaders posting that their own kids are now entering their youth ministry. Admittedly it can be a scary thing. It brings out a whole new outlook on practice what you teach. Your kid will now be right there to remind you of what you spoke about last week when you are not living it out.

Some things to keep in mind regarding your childs health, well-being, and transition into your youth ministry.

  • Always double-check with your child BEFORE you share a personal story that involves them. It may help to drive the point home, but if you don’t ask permission, YOUR drive home might be a long one.
  • Child before student. Remember they should feel more important than any other kid in the group. The last thing you want to hear them say when you are old is, “My Dad/Mom was so loving and spent so much time with other peoples kids…I wish he had loved me like that.”
  • Let them have some of the behind the scenes benefits of being your kid. Enough said.
  • Download with them after youth nights. Your son/daughter can be one of your most honest and helpful critics, giving you insights on what works, and what doesn’t. Get their input.
  • Let them have their own experience with their friends. Don’t play the parent role. I know that can be difficult, but they need to be free to succeed and fail on their own.
  • If you have small groups in your church, have another leader lead your child’s group. Give them the opportunity to have other Godly adult influences in their lives. A small group should be a safe harbor for them to talk…even if it’s about you!!!

Having your own children in your youth group can be a HUGE blessing, or a nightmare…it’s up to you as the parent and the leader.

Related post from Jim Burns and Cathy Fields